Can one be without the other? Is separation inevitable? Is union a necessity? I ponder on these questions and the answers require deep thought. Nothing is eternal. We came, so leave we must. Hence, the ultimate realization: physical separation is only temporal.
I have always felt alone. A union has meant pure sharing. But in the end, frustration creeps in when the other merely takes and takes. This sparks the search for a spiritual union. All religions expound this. On this, Yoga stands above all. I must merge with the other. Who is this other? How do I find this other? Many insist marriage is to the other. It involves a sharing of lives and resources, and a union of minds and wills. They claim it is a merger of two beings in body and soul. But to me it is merely a contract and in a way, an imprisonment. In marriage, we become dependent. We become attached, fearful, and insecure, for without the other we feel incomplete. We give our love and intuitively and subconsciously place all kinds of expectations we want fulfilled in life. Soon we realize our folly – we are unfulfilled and end up manipulating emotions.
Then, there is merger with God which often leads to delusion and belief. It becomes a mind game and we convince ourselves that God has arrived. My realization is that we need to merge only with our self. The ultimate love affair is with yourself and all of your existence.
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