“Don’t judge a book by its cover!” Unfortunately, it is the visible reference that we have overtly exploited while trying to make our acquaintance with strangers, connectivity with objects or selection of groceries. An ugly fruit with valuable nutrients may still obstruct our desire to try it. Similarly, acquainting with others takes careful and deliberate nurturing in a conducive space to make it to be a deeper connection. Indeed a recent research shows that it takes approximately 200 hours of quality time together to reach the stage of close connection.Time is a limited resource that it alone should illuminate our priorities and our directions. Essentially, people whom we are with, do shape our inclinations of life. Is it to exist and fulfill painfully embedded obligations? Or is it to live and to overcome the forces in the periphery effortlessly? When do we decide "enough is enough?"
I did.
I was subject to bullying with uncalled for criticisms and unfounded judgments. These occurred serially and blatantly. An ancient Chinese proverb goes something like “hurt me once, shame on you, hurt me twice shame on me”, but three times is going too far! This is when the inner me says, enough.
The gravity of all the assaults was nefarious but I was willing to let them go until the last straw broke the camel’s back. I chose to be accommodating because I valued the relationship. Humanity continues to live on the assumption that smallness is weakness forgetting the mighty gaj (elephant) fell to the tiny ant.
